The Counseling Experience
What does counseling look like?
My approach to counseling is to work with you to discover your strengths and goals, then develop a plan to accomplish your goals that best suits your beliefs and lifestyle. This is your journey and I'm merely a guide helping you on your path.
Upon your arrival, please have a seat in the waiting area and I will come to greet you at the top of the hour unless we have previously arranged for an earlier arrival for paperwork. During the first session, the discussion will mainly focus on background information and establishing a foundation for a therapeutic relationship to ensure that I am the right counselor for you. It is my belief that the counseling relationship is the most important component for you to feel comfortable discussing sensitive and potentially painful topics. If you do not feel that we are a good fit, I encourage you to find a counselor that you feel a trusting connection with as that would be most beneficial to your journey.
Once we identify your goals and plans, we will discuss homework. There are no consequences for not completing homework and we will discuss the methods which you find most enjoyable (reading, audio books, podcasts, etc). At the conclusion of the session, we will do a quick summary, discuss homework, schedule future appointments, and process payment.
In couples counseling, it is a false assumption that the counselor acts as a mediator for arguments. In truth, the counselor is focused on the relationship and interactions, not individual issues or arguments. My preferred approach is Gottman for couples counseling. More information can be found about the Gottman Method at www.Gottman.com.
I highly recommend purchasing a copy of the Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, as this will be the book that guides our counseling journey. Even if you choose not to move forward with counseling, this book is still a fantastic tool for anyone.